Consider yourself warned!
A guide for those who think they want children.
This past Tuesday, it was announced that New York City would be hit with another Nor’easter. Before my kids had even made it home from school, it was announced that school would be closed Wednesday. Can you believe it? When the announcement was made, it wasn’t even snowing. I thought that they would have at least waited to see what the weather did Wednesday morning before closing the schools. Well, this was one of the few times that the weather person got it right. It snowed. Boy, did it snow!
So, Wednesday, my kids had a snow day. They were still in bed when I left for work that morning. I have to admit, I was jealous. I wanted to stay home too, but I went to work anyway (I wanted to save my vacation days for when the kids and I go on vacation in a few weeks). So, there they were, all snug in bed. And there I was, getting ready to leave for work. In. All. That. Snow! As I went to work, I told myself that I should be grateful that 1) I have a job to go to, and 2) that my kids are old enough to stay home alone.
When the kids were too little to stay home alone. I used to get them dressed and drag them through the snow just so that they could have the pleasure of going to work with me. These kids thought it was fun. They would take the train with me to work (along with all the other kids going to work with their parents), where they would be spoiled by my co-workers. It was a great day for them. It was hell for me. Now mind you, my kids were always well-behaved. However, no matter how well-behaved they were, I always worried that they would be a bother my co-workers. It always made for a stressful day.
I remember the last time I planned to take the kids to work with me. They were about six and seven years old. It had snowed, schools were closed, and I had to work. I got the kids up, made them breakfast, and got them dressed. I was stressed before I had even left the apartment. I was so frustrated, probably in anticipation of how I thought the day was going to be. Then, all of a sudden, it hit me like a ton of bricks. Why am I doing this? Why am I stressing myself when I have unused vacation days? Why should these kids have to go to work with me when they can just stay home? Hell, I wanted to stay home! Then I realized that I didn’t have to do this. So, I called work, told them that I wasn’t coming in, and stayed home with my kids. I even got to take a nap later on in the day. It was a great day. After that, whenever school was closed I just stayed home (thank goodness NYC rarely closes schools). If there was a hint that school would be closed, I would prepare my work for the person who had to cover for me, and stay home with the kids. I started looking forward to snow days. Who wouldn’t? Snow days gave me the perfect excuse to stay home. I just always made sure that I had enough vacation days saved up. After all, the kids still need to eat on a regular basis, so leave without pay was not an option.
After a while, the kids got older, and became more mature and responsible. They were able to stay home alone and no longer needed me to stay home with them. Yesterday was one of those days. They don’t need me to stay home with them, so I went to work. I miss my snow days!
So, while your kids are young, save up your vacation time. Hopefully, you can use them for snow days and have fun with your kids. If you are able, take advantage of that time. You won’t get it back.
So now you know and … Consider Yourself Warned!
SassyGirlTye lives with her two wonderful teenagers in Brooklyn, New York. No matter what she says in her posts, she truly loves her children with all her heart.