Consider yourself warned!
A guide for those who think they want children.
I hope you all are enjoying this holiday season
with your family. See you in the New Year!
I am so tired. I don’t really have any reason to be tired, but I am. Who knows? Maybe I suffer from seasonal affective disorder, maybe it’s the effects of being perimenopausal, or maybe I just need to go to bed earlier, but in any event, I am tired. All I can say is that I am so glad its December. As of December 20th, I will be officially on vacation. My daughter and I am going on a cruise to the Bahamas. I can’t wait to go. I just want to sit on the ship, relax, and then relax some more. There are going to be lots of activities that we can do, but all I want to do is ... nothing! Other than taking Instagram pictures for my daughter (mind you, I said for my daughter, not with my daughter. I guess teenagers aren’t suppose to post vacation pictures of themselves with their mothers on Instagram), and going to the spa, I plan on doing nothing by sit on some lounge chair and relax.
This will be the first vacation that my daughter and I will take without her brother. He didn’t want to come with us, saying that he would rather stay home and be with his friends over the school break, (he also said that he didn’t want to be on a boat for eight days). I can understand that. I think I would have wanted to spend my first winter break with my friends too. I’m sure they all want to get together, catch up, and compare their college experiences. And besides, he’s 18 now. He’s old enough to decide whether or not he wants to come on vacation with me. But, I actually feel guilty for leaving him home in Brooklyn (however, I don’t feel bad about having one less person to pay for on this cruise). I’ve been asking myself, “ What will he do?” “ What are his plans?” “ Does he plan on having a party at the house while we’re gone?” “ Would my neighbor let me know if he does?” “Does he think he could play house with his girlfriend while no one’s home?” "What if something happens while we are gone and he can't reach me?" “Oh, why can’t he just come with us?”
I guess this is just the beginning. Soon, I will be traveling sans kids. I’m not looking forward to that. I remember when I used to day dream of what life would be like when the kids were on their own. In my mind, I was living the life ... hanging out with my friends, going out to eat, vacationing with friends, etc. But, now that it is almost a reality, that life is not as appealing as I thought it would be. The kids and I always had fun when we vacationed together. Don’t get me wrong, my daughter and I are going to have fun on this cruise too. But, it just won’t be the same without my son. This time next year, my daughter will be 18. What if I decide to go on vacation and neither of them want to come with me? I guess I better enjoy this cruise with my daughter. This may be the last vacation she takes with me.
If you have kids who are still willing to, or have no choice but to travel with you, enjoy each moment. They grow up quickly and soon they will have vacation plans that don’t include you.
So, now you know and you can ... Consider Yourself Warned!
Parents, when did your child stop going on vacations with you? How did you feel?
SassyGirlTye lives with her two wonderful teenagers in Brooklyn, New York. No matter what she says in her posts, she truly loves her children with all her heart.