Consider yourself warned!
A guide for those who think they want children.
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If you hang around little kids long enough, you will soon hear this dreaded word: MINE! Little kids seem to think that everything belongs to them. They have no concept of things belonging to other people because in their tiny universe everything revolves around them. It seems to me that as kids get older, the concept of “Mine” changes into its “Ours”
Let me explain what I mean. Before I had kids, if I left my comb on my bed, it was still there when I came home from work. If I left my phone charger in the bathroom, it was still there when I came home from work. If I left my spare keys in the kitchen drawer, guess what? They were still there when I came home from work! That’s not the case when you have kids. For some reason, kids seem to think that what’s yours, is also theirs and they should be able to use it as they see fit. And no matter how many times you tell them its not theirs, they just don’t get it or, they just conveniently forget. Side note: I find this to be ironic because kids who have siblings, somehow seem to understand the concept of what’s mine is mine, not ours, and its definitely not yours. It’s mine, and only mine! When my daughter was around five years old, she had a habit of taking my stuff and putting it in her room. I would sit down with her and explain to her that she can’t take my things because they do not belong to her. I would patiently tell her that if something belongs to me its mine, not hers. She would just give me a strange look. You would have thought I was speaking in a foreign language or that I had three heads on my shoulders. Since she was in Catholic school, I pulled the “If you take something that doesn’t belong to you, that’s stealing and a sin” card. Again, all I got was a confused look. It never failed, at the end of each and every conversation, she would look at me with these big beautiful eyes and say, “But its yours Mommy, so its mine.” Now that she’s a teenager, I believe she understands what is mine is mine, not hers … but she just ignores it. There are many times when I’m in the bathroom, getting ready for work. I reach over to where I keep the hair supplies, and low and behold, I can’t find my comb, hair gel, bobby pins, brush, hair tie. You name it, I can’t find it. Its NOT in the last place I left it. Now at this point, I’m usually the only one home because the kids leave for school before I leave for work. That means that I have to go searching in my daughter’s bedroom for whatever I need. And it never fails, when I’m looking for one specific item, I find something else of mine in her room! I guess I should take it as a compliment and tell myself, “Oh, she wants to be just like me. That’s why she’s uses my stuff.” I should be flattered. But, I’m not. I just want my things. Or better yet, if you use my things, put them back where you got them so they will be there when I’m ready to use them. And please, can you tell me when you’ve used the last of it? Do you know how annoying it is to find an empty bottle of nail polish remover at 9:00 pm? Really? Now, I know what you’re saying. Your saying, “SassyGirlTye, why don’t you just buy your daughter her own XY and Z?” Well, I have! But it doesn’t matter she still use my stuff. And don’t think this only happens with my daughter, my son is guilty of this behavior too. There have been many times my hair brush, my phone charger, or even the speakers for my computer, yes the speakers to my computer have been missing. Can you imagine how frustrating it is to sit down at your computer thinking that you’re going to listen to music as you work, only to find that there are no speakers? Its sooooo annoying! For those of you who may not have had the pleasure of living with a teenager yet, he connects the speaker to his cell phone so that he can play, oh I’m sorry, I mean blast his music. I don’t mind that he uses them, but JUST PUT THEM BACK!!!! Is that so difficult? Apparently so. So in case you didn’t know, you can now …. Consider yourself warned!
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SassyGirlTye lives with her two wonderful teenagers in Brooklyn, New York. No matter what she says in her posts, she truly loves her children with all her heart.
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