Daughters and Clothes

I’m still in my nostalgic state.  I guess its something I’m going through right now.  This time, I’m thinking about my daughter.

When I found out that I was going to have a girl, I was ecstatic.  After all, what women doesn’t want a daughter?  Someone who will be their little confidant.  Someone who will be a mini version of themselves.  Someone you can dress in those adorable frilly dresses!

Be forewarned.  If you find out you are going to have a girl, start saving money for her clothes fund, in addition to the college fund.  Little baby girls are like living baby dolls you can dress up.  You will buy cute little dresses, with matching accessories, and earrings.  You will want  to purchase cute little patent leather shoes and the lacy socks or stockings.  Of course, they can’t play in those dresses.  They are for church and other dress up occasions.  So, you will need another wardrobe of pants and matching tops, along with the socks and sneakers.  Just so you know, these clothes aren’t cheap!  I once saw a dress that I liked for my daughter.  It was over $100.  The sad part is that the dress was so cute, that I actually thought about buying it!  My daughter wasn’t even 1 years old yet.  I didn’t buy the dress. 

Next comes the preschool years.  You still have control over what they wear, but now they start to express their opinions.  During the preschool years, I would iron 5 pairs of pants and 5 shirts on Sunday.  Every school day, my daughter got to choose which pair of pants and which shirt she wanted to wear that day (She went to a Montessori preschool.  The teacher said that we should let the kids pick their own clothes).  Sometimes, I had to “help” her choose.  I couldn’t have her going out looking any kind of way.  What would people say? 

Luckily for me, she wore a school uniform during the elementary school years.  But by then, she was no longer was she interested in dresses.  She said that pants were more comfortable.  I understood that, but I insisted that she still have some dresses for special occasions. 

High school is pretty much the same as elementary school, except now, she buys her own clothes.  She has pretty good taste in clothes and seems to pick out pieces that accentuate her figure and look good on her.  Sometimes, when I’m shopping with her, I pick out clothes for her.  You should see the look she gives me.  I crack up every time.  She tries to not offend me, so she’ll crinkle up her nose and say something like, “No mommy.  I don’t think so.”, or “No mommy, that really isn’t for me.”  Occasionally, I’ll get, “Oh.  That’s really not that bad.”  Really not that bad, is that the best I can get?  Doesn’t this girl know how lucky she is to have a fashion conscience mother, like me?  Luckily for her, she knows not to pick out any hoochie mama clothes.  Although once, she showed me a dress online that she was thinking of buying.  It wasn’t necessarily a hoochie mama dress, but I had to tell her that 1) she does not have the cleavage for that dress, and 2) there was no way in hell she was going to wear that dress at the ripe young age of 16!  She laughed and told me that she knew I wouldn’t go for it.  I guess she just wanted to get a rise out of me. 

Listen, if you have a young daughter, get ready.  One day, the days of the dressing your little girl in frilly dresses will disappear, and the days of the crop tops and form fitting dresses will take its place.  Be ready.  Its an adjustment.  And just to be clear, its an adjustment for you, not for her.

So, now you know, and you can … Consider Yourself Warned!
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If you have a daughter, what kind of clothing wars have you had?