Consider yourself warned!
A guide for those who think they want children.
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When my son was first born, I remember sitting on the hospital bed holding him in my arms. He was so tiny and precious. I couldn’t believe how much love I felt for that little baby. I kissed him. I hugged him. I told him how much I loved him. Then, I laid out my expectations for him. I told him that it was expected that he would do well in school. It was expected that he would go to college. As he and his younger sister grew older, I added to my list of expectations. I told them that not only was it expected that they would do well in school and finish both high school and college, but that it was expected that they would attend and finish graduate school. After that, it was expected that they would get a good job. It was only after they completed all of that, that they could think about getting married and having kids. I know that it may have been early to tell them those things, but I figured that as a mother, I needed to set some clear expectations of them.
Well, this week my son reached a milestone in his life … he submitted his first set of college applications! While he has applied to four colleges so far, he has told me that he intends on applying to more. Who knows where he will eventually end up? The list of colleges that he is applying to ranges from as far north as Boston to as far south as North Carolina. His list ranges from state schools to private colleges. Even though I have told him since he was little that this is what I expect of him, I must tell you, I have mixed feelings about this. On the one hand, I’m happy for him. He’s a smart boy and will do well in college. He’s also very handsome (if I do say so myself), so I know he will enjoy an active social life. He will have fun and experience all that college has to offer. I have no doubt about that. On the other hand, I don’t want to see my baby boy grow up and leave me. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not one of those overbearing mothers who wants to control her kids. And, I am not trying to raise a Mama’s Boy (I don’t want my future daughter-in-law complaining about me). No, I understand that he has to go out and live his own life. I just hate that it is happening so fast! So, the countdown has begun. I very much doubt that he will stay in the Big Apple for college. Even if he does, most colleges require freshmen to live on campus. So, no matter which college he attends, in August, he will be leaving me. August. I can’t believe that it is so close. I only have about ten more months to enjoy my son as a teenager. When he comes back home from school the following December, he will be coming home as a young adult. Wow! If you have little kids, enjoy each day that you have with them. The time goes by faster than you’ll ever know! So, now you know, and you can …. Consider Yourself Warned! If you have kids that have already left home, what did you do to prepare yourself for it?
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Renee
11/6/2018 05:46:25 am
Nice read! Girl I’m already thinking about moving to ATL when my daughter goes to college and she’s only in 9th grade! LOL!!! Yeah, that’s gonna be a really hard one.
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SassyGirlTye
11/6/2018 06:26:53 pm
Are you assuming that she is going to go to college in Atlanta? I used to think the same thing. I thought that if both my kids went to college in Atlanta, I could sell my house in Brooklyn and get a condo down there. Somehow, I don't think that either of them would appreciate that! My daughter is looking forward to her "freedom", as she puts it. lol
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SassyGirlTye lives with her two wonderful teenagers in Brooklyn, New York. No matter what she says in her posts, she truly loves her children with all her heart.
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